In business, leadership and in all interpersonal relationships, you´ll find that most people are too quick to blurt out a response without thinking and most often not caring about how it could affect their listeners.
Many a times, both personal, work and business relationships have been marred because of a quick and unkind retort. No matter how quick the brain is to think or to react, feelings could be hurt, deals are oft lost simply because someone in a fit of anger, frustration or even confusion was in too much of a haste to voice his or her opinion.
When faced with a disagreeable situation, many people lose the ability to stop and think. Many of us forget about being mindful and thoughtful, and we easily forget that sometimes, saying nothing at all for a few second can help us get our thoughts into perspective, articulate our opinions better and that, only then can we have the possibilty of explaining our stance without stepping on any toes (and, when we do step on toes with justifiable reason, the toe will know exactly why it got stepped on).
Poker is a card game based on information availability and combines elements of chance and strategy. You never know for sure how good or bad another player’s hand is, often until it’s too late. But because poker is a game of human interaction, we sometimes receive clues from other players, based on changes in their betting patterns or their physical demeanour, which indicates the strength or weakness of their hand. These are called “poker tells” and even though most times, these "tells" could be false, players have used them as indicators of how to bet.
And so, for a leader, the concept known as "poker face" basically means adapting your behaviours and reactions so that your facial or bodily expressions don´t reveal your thoughts or emotions too much., especially with an "opponent".
Also, consider the concept of "poker mouth" - which can be the ability to be intentional and thoughtful, not saying everything that comes into your head, but rather choosing to say the things which are most likely to help you get the desired results.
Developing a "poker mouth" might be easier for some people than for others. Some people count to a certain number, some think about a loved one; spouse, parent or someone of influence over them, some people leave the room for a while.
How do you hit that "pause botton"? How do you stop and think when we are being pushed to make one of those barbed responses and how has it worked for you.
Share your tactics.
Poker is a card game based on information availability and combines elements of chance and strategy. You never know for sure how good or bad another player’s hand is, often until it’s too late. But because poker is a game of human interaction, we sometimes receive clues from other players, based on changes in their betting patterns or their physical demeanour, which indicates the strength or weakness of their hand. These are called “poker tells” and even though most times, these "tells" could be false, players have used them as indicators of how to bet.
And so, for a leader, the concept known as "poker face" basically means adapting your behaviours and reactions so that your facial or bodily expressions don´t reveal your thoughts or emotions too much., especially with an "opponent".
Also, consider the concept of "poker mouth" - which can be the ability to be intentional and thoughtful, not saying everything that comes into your head, but rather choosing to say the things which are most likely to help you get the desired results.
Developing a "poker mouth" might be easier for some people than for others. Some people count to a certain number, some think about a loved one; spouse, parent or someone of influence over them, some people leave the room for a while.
How do you hit that "pause botton"? How do you stop and think when we are being pushed to make one of those barbed responses and how has it worked for you.
Share your tactics.
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